EMBRACING TRANSITIONS

Okay friends, for today’s Thoughtful Thursday post I wanted to talk about embracing transitions in life. I’m sure many of you are experiencing transitions in life as we head into a new season and end another school year. For me I am experiencing a big change as one of our children just graduated from college and we are launching him into the world!

I don’t know how you are, but I really struggle with change. I thrive on routine and consistency. Although admittedly I’m a weird one because I also really like to try new things and spontaneity. But, there is this part of me that has a hard time transitioning into a new season. I have learned over the years that I must lean into the transition instead of fighting it. I’m learning to embrace these seasons of change and go with the flow of the change. This has helped me to have a different perspective and to actually enjoy the process of transitions.

So often I miss the journey by focusing on the destination. Have you ever done that? Once you see a change coming on the horizon – like a child graduating, it can be easy to wish away the transition time to get to the next stage. But I find there are some beautiful things in the transition time, or the journey, not just the destination.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned from experiencing a lot of transitions in life is that it is okay and healthy to grieve the loss of the life you once had. It can be difficult to let go of a season of life, particularly if we have fond memories of that season. But change is a part of life, so we might as well embrace it! Grieve the loss of the life you once had, but live in your present and enjoy the moments you have now. I like to try to focus on all the positives of each life stage because it can be all too easy to look backwards and miss what you had or to look forwards and long for whatever you think that future looks like.

I have some big changes up ahead, so I feel like I really have to practice these principles! My son Luke just graduated from the University of Texas Chemical Engineering School. He has always been a really hard worker, and it paid off. He got multiple job offers for after graduation and he was able to accept his first choice! But that happens to be across the country in the Pacific Northwest. So this summer my husband and I will be moving him to Portland, OR. Of course I am so excited for him and this next chapter of life, but it will be an adjustment for me that he lives so far away as he was only 20 minutes from our house while living on UT’s campus!

It’s okay and healthy to grieve what once was, but I wanted to encourage you today if you are in a season of transition to embrace it! Find the beauty in the change. Look for what this season of life is teaching you, and then accept the new season with open arms!

Here is the YouTube video I shared in conjunction with this blog post.

MAKING CHANGES

Okay friends, for today’s Thoughtful Thursday post I wanted to talk about making changes in life. Lately I have been thinking about this because I feel like I have not been as disciplined as I would like to be in several areas in life. Often I feel like once we start compromising in one area of life it seems to seep over into other areas. I am all for self care and rest, but lately I have had a lot on my plate emotionally and I think I have used that as an excuse to be more lax with myself. It’s never easy to change habits, but sometimes it’s necessary.

I think one of the most important life skills is to learn to intentionally challenge yourself. Intentionally find ways to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. It can be easy to fall into some lazy habits, and for me lately I feel like I’ve fallen into some lazy habits. Choosing to intentionally challenge yourself can get you out of that rut. Maybe there is some sort of morning routine challenge you could do, or diet challenge, or workout challenge. I’m going to be leaving soon to go on another trip and I have decided for the next 10 days I’m focusing on eating more whole foods, less processed food and sugar, and cutting alcohol out of my diet. My diet is one area where I do feel like I have become more lax, so this is a way to reset my habits. When we intentionally challenge ourselves it also keeps life more interesting and breaks up the mundane.

You might not even be aware of what needs to change in your life. That is why I find self awareness and self reflection to be such important habits to cultivate in your life. You don’t know what to change if you aren’t self aware. It can be easy to just go through the motions in life instead of being present and conscious of your habits. Set aside time in your day, even if it’s for 10 minutes, for self reflection. Journaling is a great practice to help facilitate self reflection. Self awareness is the first step towards making changes and becoming a better version of yourself!

We should want to continuously seek ways to become the best versions of ourselves. In this process, giving yourself grace is so important! When you are on a journey towards being the best person you can be, you need to accept that there are days where you will backslide. It is human nature to take two steps forward and one step back. Don’t beat yourself up if you have a bad day or a few bad days, or even a few bad weeks! As long as you are slowly progressing towards better, that is all that matters. Every day is a new opportunity to do the next right thing!

In my opinion, we become our best selves by ever evolving and ever changing. We become our best selves through personal growth. Growth is not easy, but it is rewarding! We must continue to remind ourselves of that truth, and that will help us to keep pushing forward!

Here is the YouTube video I created in conjunction with this blog post.

SUSTAINABLE HEALTHY LIFESTYLES

Okay friends, for today’s Thoughtful Thursday post I wanted to talk about the importance of sustainability in your lifestyle. It can be challenging to change your lifestyle. However, there are times in life where you may evaluate the way you have been living and want to make a change. I would argue that one of the most important things to consider when changing your lifestyle is if it is a sustainable way for you to live. Success or longevity happens far more often in consistency rather than in perfection. Whether you want to exercise and eat healthier, start a journey towards decluttering and minimalism, start a new cleaning routine, or find better work/life balance, the important thing is to make changes you can stick to!

So often when making a change in lifestyle, people try to change too much all at once and expect perfection. It can be really defeating when you don’t meet the expectations you set for yourself and often lead to giving up. But if you come up with a plan that is sustainable, then you are more likely to have follow-through!

If you are ready to start a new exercise or diet routine, it’s best to start with small changes so you can have some wins! This helps you to feel more capable and therefore you are more likely to have follow-through. This is an extreme example: but if you have never exercised before, I would suggest not deciding one day that you are going to exercise 6 times a week for an hour each day! It would be challenging to make that drastic of a lifestyle change overnight. It is more sustainable to choose to workout one or two days a week. Maybe just walking around the block at first – working up to more frequent and harder workouts. So often when we want to make a lifestyle change, we are impatient with the results and that is why we go hard and fast. If you want lasting change, there really are no shortcuts. You must work through the process and be patient. Anyone you see who is fit did not get like that overnight. Likely it was hard work and consistency that got them where they are.

Changing your diet in a sustainable way can be really challenging. I have been wanting to incorporate more protein into my diet, however I am not a big meat eater, so for me it would not be sustainable to just add more meat to my diet. I have had to get creative to find ways to add extra protein into the existing way I eat. The other day I made protein pancakes to add extra protein to something that I wanted to eat!

Maybe you are ready to start a decluttering journey, or a journey towards minimalism. Once again the key to success when pursuing something is that it is sustainable for you. Often people don’t have the time or physical and emotional bandwidth to declutter a lot of items in a short period of time. Instead of pressuring yourself to declutter everything at once perhaps focus on one area at a time, maybe choosing to do one space per week. When you declutter small amounts over a longer period of time, it will feel more achievable and then you will be more likely to have follow-through. There is that phrase “follow-through” again. When things are sustainable, we are more likely to have success. 

If you are trying to become more minimal, it is best to evaluate your lifestyle, age, if you have children, and hobbies in order to create a space that is minimal but also sustainable. If you are hasty and get rid of everything at once you may get rid of things that you actually wanted or needed. I really love fashion, but over the years as I have pursued minimalism I have thought about downsizing my wardrobe. I finally decided that a small, capsule, or basic wardrobe really wasn’t sustainable for me. I like to have a variety of items to choose from in my wardrobe and that’s okay!

Another area of life that you may want to change is your cleaning schedule/routine. Once again, in order to be successful you have to come up with a schedule that is reasonable for your lifestyle. Maybe you work during the week and don’t have time to clean during the week and you have to get all of your cleaning done on the weekend. Or perhaps you are the opposite and your weekends are full with kids’ activities or other obligations outside of the home, but you can do a little bit of cleaning each day of the week. It’s best to figure out what works with your schedule, which will make implementing a cleaning routine more sustainable.

Lastly, perhaps you are trying to find a better work-life balance. We must find ways to make that sustainable. Perhaps there are things in your job that you can delegate to others, freeing up more of your time. Or there could be things on your plate that aren’t necessary and you could eliminate them all together. If you don’t evaluate what changes can be made and you just try to fit more and more into your calendar, that will over time burn you out and will not be sustainable. You must be realistic about the amount of time you have each day, and your personal bandwidth of what you can do. 

Changing your lifestyle isn’t always easy, but it is doable. You are more likely to have success if you are able to think through ways the new lifestyle can be sustainable for you.

Here is the YouTube video I made in conjunction with this blog post.